Avoiding these 5 Relationship-Wrecking Mistakes allowed me to turn around my relationship with my beloved -- even with my track record of messed-up marriages...

“Are You Going Around In Circles About the Same Old Issues?  Do you Wonder Why They Never Get Resolved?

Learn the 5 Relationship-Wrecking Communication Mistakes to Avoid... The Mistakes That Suck You into the Mire
and Keep You There!"

Find out what to say... and what NOT to say... to avoid the upsets and misunderstandings that can turn a loving relationship into an endurance test.
 

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Dear Friends,

This is Kristin Denton from MagicRelationship.com -- with some information that will rock your relationship… and your world.

This information will help you get back the love, trust and honesty you crave in your relationship… It works, and it's simple enough to begin using tonight.

I know how it is to feel the desperation when you think you've got to end your relationship -- or go crazy. 

You think it’s your fault for a while, then you think your beloved is stark-raving mad… and then you go back to putting it all on yourself again.

You’d talk to your friends but they’re tired of hearing about it… you’d talk to your mom, but you know she’s always just going to put down your partner,… or you’d talk to a psychologist, but you don’t have the time or the money.

And so you just plug along, hoping you’ll stumble onto the answer to your problems.

I don't know what was worse when I went through my divorces - that I was losing my beloved, or that I was loosing the dream I had built around our life together. 

With my first marriage we were going to move overseas, I was going to teach there and we would live in tropical glory with an avocado tree in the yard. 

Once I discovered that none of that was going to happen, and not only that, but that he expected me to work full time and take care of the baby while he dreamed up marketing schemes...

I didn't know what to do. 

And so we divorced and went through an awful international child custody battle.

What's sad is that now I know the communication
skills that I could have used back then to work things out. 

I realize... now... that I wasn't even expressing my feelings and needs in a way that he could have understood what I really wanted.  And I was making absolutely every one of the 5 Relationship Wrecking Communication Mistakes.

No wonder it ended in divorce.

And in each successive relationship I made the same mistakes and blamed everything on my poor partner.  I'm not saying they were angels, these guys, but I can definitely see how I really added to the pain and disappointed by my lack of communication and also my 'violent' communication.  I have a very sharp tongue.

Have YOU ever shamed, blamed or argued pointlessly?  You know what I mean...

It wasn't until I met Paul and he introduced me to the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication, that I was able to figure the whole thing out.

And no, things aren't perfect between Paul and me -- but at least we've got a tool to use to express our innermost feelings and needs.  Now I've got a way of indentifying what I really want out of the relationship and expressing that to Paul in a compassionate way... a way in which he'll really want to hear it.

And if it worked for me -- a relationship basket case -- I'm sure it will work for you, too.

Change Isn't Always ‘Better’…
But ‘Better’ is Always Change

We’ll show you what to change and how to change it to get the love, trust, honesty, intimacy, and open communication you want in a relationship.

First, let me explain something:  there are three things you can change in a relationship.

 1) You Can Try to Change Your Partner -- almost everyone has tried to get their partner to change. They try to get their partner to stop doing some irritating habit like leaving dirty dishes in the sink, leaving the tooth paste cap off, or smoking. Has this ever worked?

2) You Can Change Partners -- when changing our partner's behavior doesn't work, we move on to a different partner. The divorce rate in America right now is 74%*. The problem with this strategy is that we keep attracting similar partners because we haven't changed.

3) Or, You Can Change The Way You Relate to Your Partner -- this one is less popular but it's the most powerful.  You do have control over how you relate to somebody else with new tools and skills.
 

I’ve got good new for you: 
you HAVE stumbled on to the answer!

There is a way to communicate with your beloved that will create compassion and understanding:  and all it takes is avoiding the 5 Relationship Wrecking Communication Mistakes.

(Okay... sometimes controlling what you say when you're in the middle of a heated argument isn't THAT easy... but with our method, all you have to remember are these 5 points, things you can DO -- and that's a lot easier than just trying to be enlightened...)

When you purchase our eBook, “The 5 Relationship-Wrecking Communication Mistakes” your life and your relationship WILL change.

The thing that is so amazing about The 5 Mistakes is how powerful it is to just know about them so that I can avoid them.

You'll start to notice that the issues that used to be hard to talk about will start to feel like a casual conversation... and the scary ones that you used to run away from, you will now take on with compassion and confidence.

When couples learn this tool, they say it is a turning point in their relationship. 

Reading the 5 Relationship-Wrecking Communication Mistakes eBook, doing the exercises at the end of each chapter and doing the exercises we’ll send you by email… will give you the tools and skills to bring back the trust, honesty and open communication that you crave.

And what's more, you don't have to wait a long time to learn this. The eBook can be read in one sitting. 

However, the power of the eBook is in the exercises at the end of each chapter that deepen your understanding and prepare you to actually use this information.

You'll want to read it again and again and do all of the exercises to get the most out of it.

You'll also want to download the bonus MP3 interviews on the 5 Mistakes and the ROS (Relationship Operating System) that come with the eBook.  These two hours of audio recording will help deepen your understanding and make your new knowledge a part of your everyday life. 
 

The Relationship Wall

Some people hit the wall in a week.  For others it takes a couple of months, and for Paul's parents it took about 20 years...

The wall is where your relationship issues are bigger than your ability to be able to work through them using your verbal communication.

And without help… hitting the wall often ends in separation or divorce even though the couple may still love each other.  If they don't have the skills to work through their problems, it becomes easier to end the relationship than it is to resolve the issues.

The secret to getting over the relationship wall is so obvious that most people don't see it.

It's All About Communication

If you want to be successful... you have to learn how to communicate with others.

Look at politicians, salespeople and Hollywood actors. What do they have in common? They are all great (at times) at communicating with others.

The other half of this formula is if you want to be happy… you have to learn how to communicate with yourself.

Look at John Belushi, Otis Redding, Jimi Hendrix, and Janis Joplin…  

They were all great at communicating with others but they weren't so good at communicating with themselves.  That's why they were so unhappy.  Their biographies point out how cruel they were with their own self criticism...and how they barraged themselves with negative self talk.

But you can make the decision, right now, to change your life for the better.  Once you're aware of the distinctions about communication presented in "The 5 Relationship Wrecking Communication Mistakes," you'll never relate to others in the same way again.
 

So Here Are Some Of The Benefits of
Learning The 5 Relationship
Wrecking Communication Mistakes

Read the eBook, do the exercises and…

 Know how to listen so he feels understood, loved and appreciated.
Discover what causes men to close up tighter than a clam - unwilling & unable to talk about their feelings and needs... and the simple 4-step solution to turn that around.
 Move past the blame, shame and guilt game. Find out how to ask for and get what you want without using manipulation, force or coercion.
  Know how to express yourself fully in a way that won't turn your loved ones away.
 Communicate less defensively and stop taking things personally so that upsets never escalate in the first place.
 Have productive disagreements without arguing.
  Communicate in ways that don't get misinterpreted.Turn break-downs into break-throughs.
  Bring back the love, trust, honesty and open communication.
 

Who Are We, and Why Do We Have the
Knowledge to Deliver This Simple,
Powerful and Effective Advice to You?
 

I'm Kristin Denton. I'm a high school English teacher specializing in working with at-risk youth.  I received a Bachelors Degree in Philosophy and English Literature from the University of Colorado, Boulder in 1984 (the year my daughter was born).  Then I received my teacher certification the following year from CU, Boulder.  Later I studied Instructional Design and Second Language Acquisition at the University of Colorado, Denver, in work toward my Masters Degree.

I was always quite successful in my teaching career, even though it was quite difficult and demanding.  But one thing that eluded me was happiness and stability at home. 

My relationships were a wreck.  That is, until I met Paul and he introduced me to the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent communication.  It changed my life.

It's not that Paul and I have the perfect relationship -- it's jus that now I feel like I've got a way to approach issues in the relationship, rather than just leaving (I divorced 3 times).

My partner is Paul Sterling.  After the tragic suicide of his older brother, he started studying human behavior and communication... driven by one idea:  there had to be a better way.

During his years as a commercial fisherman, he spent his off-seasons studying personal development and self-growth theories with all of the masters (Anthony Robbins, Byron Katie, Marshall Thurber, and more). 

After his fishing days he began teaching communication skills for government, businesses and in private practice.

And of course, he always tried to use his communication skills in his personal relationships, but it didn’t always work. He has one divorce and two broken engagements under his belt.

So he knew he had more to learn. Then, about 10 years ago, he discovered the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication (NVC, go to cnvc.org). He was amazed at how transformational and useful it was.

Paul has over 10 solid years of training, education
and teaching in the area of communication.

A few years ago, he blended NVC with systems theory, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and neuro-associative conditioning to create an incredibly effective way to compassionately connect with yourself and others.

Now, Paul and I teach this method to other couples from real examples from our life together. 

We teach this simple yet powerful communication method to prison inmates, at-risk students, university professors, therapists, counselors and, of course, couples – lots of couples.

You Certainly Can't Put a Price on a Great
Connection with Your Loved One

What if you didn’t experience resentment for your spouse, you were appreciated for all you do and your emotions were acknowledged?

Learn how to talk so that your partner wants to listen. 

And learn how to listen so that your partner wants to talk. 

Stop taking things personally and making them personal as you discuss the most difficult issues with the people you love the most.

You might be able to get these things through years of counseling, thousands of dollars in psychologist’s fees and hundreds of hours struggling. 

Remember, we've been testing this over and over again for years on each other (Paul is guinea pig #1, I'm guinea pig #2) and it's been working for us -- and we come from some very dysfunctional backgrounds!

it works for our clients -- like Henry and Velina, who were ready to get a divorce but are now planning a renewal of their vows in Cabo San Lucas.

Randy and Janet call us all of the time when they run into relationship walls to help get them through it -- they claim they wouldn't still be together, loving each other, working together and caring for their son -- without our help.

And Burt and Regina have used this method to make it possible just to remain in the same house together... before learning the 5 Mistakes they were sure they were going to have to split up.

Plus we teach it to prison inmates, at-risk students, university professors, therapists, counselors and even more couples.

If these strategies have worked in all of these circumstances, you can bet they're going to work wonders in your life.

Bonus Interview #1: The 5 Mistakes Paul & Kristin take you step-by-step through the 5 Mistakes...and spend over an hour discussing the issues that plague most relationships.  This package of MP3 downloads includes an extensive Q & A session with the participants at the end. In addition, there is an 8-page workbook that you can use to follow through the calls as we explore... How to easily identify and more importantly... avoid the top 5 mistakes people make...  What causes most communication problems. How to clear up communication problems -- some simple rules to follow. What prevents communication problems from occurring. Examples you can relate to and use in your life... starting today.

Bonus Interview #2: Your 'ROS' Paul & Kristin talk about your Relationship Operating System (ROS)... and dive into the power our past can have on our present and our future -- past relationships, past baggage, past experiences that could be running and ruining your current love-life. We include a 6-page workbook that you can use to follow the calls as we explore... How to identify baggage that is getting in the way of intimacy and understanding...  Why some issues are recycled, but never resolved. How to talk about the past so it stops creating upsets in the present. How to talk to someone who is stuck in the past, always bringing up old stuff. Examples you can relate to and use in your life... starting today. Bonus #1 $47...plus Bonus #2 $47 That's a total of $94.00 you'll get for FREE when you order your eBook today.

Just How Much Do We Believe in This Solution?
Got a Tough Partner and Not Sure This Will Work for You?

Order the eBook and audio recordings, read the book, listen to the recordings, take notes and practice what you learn.

You have 90 days to put these tools to the test. Learn to identify and avoid the 5 Mistakes and test them in your most challenging situations. 

We guarantee knowing and avoiding them will:

Dramatically and instantly reduce the number of conflicts and upsets in your relationship,
Increase the trust, honesty, intimacy and open communication in your life,
And that your only regret will be that you didn't learn this in school!

If at the end of the 3 months... you don't agree that they are the most useful communication and relationship skills you have ever learned, just let us know and we will gladly refund your money.

Some of our Clients Have Been So Excited... and Relieved... by Their Results, They've Emailed, Phoned, and Faxed Us These Notes...
 

Learning Together Is Optional

Now don't get me wrong: most of the time it's easier and more fun when your partner wants to learn this process with you... but the Magic Relationship Method is very much effective when it's used by only one partner.

The only way it's not effective is if your partner is reluctant and only learns the process because you blackmail them ("I'll never have sex with you again unless you read this eBook...!")

Changing the way you relate to your partner will change the relationship. It's like slow dancing… if one of you changes the step, then the dance HAS to change. 

Your partner has to do something to accommodate this change or you'll both fall over.

So remember, it can be learned by yourself.
 

To Your Relationship Success,

Kristin Denton and Paul Sterling
MagicRelationship.com
970-586-7734

P.S. "Insanity is communicating the same way over and over again, expecting a different result." Arguments, intimacy problems, family feuds as well as problems on the job -- these are most often communication problems, either with others or ourselves. Order the eBook today and learn that if you...

Communicate well with others, you can be successful...
Communicate well with yourself, you can be happy.

P.P.S. "These are either the best, more informative, most useful Bonus recordings you have listened to on relationships and communication or we will refund your payment...

P.P.P.S.  Still stuck on the fence...?  Give us a call if you have any questions. You can reach us at (970) 586-7734 or send an email to Kristin@MagicRelationship.com .

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